New research reveals the hidden variable that predicts whether you get the job, keep the job, or burn out trying.
If you are reading this, you probably think you know your “type.” Maybe you’re an INTJ, an Enneagram 8, or high in “Conscientiousness.” You’ve optimized your resume, practiced your STAR method answers, and you’re still hitting a wall.
The problem isn’t your skills. It isn’t your personality. It’s your attachment style.
For decades, psychologists thought attachment theory—the study of how we bond with caregivers—was just for babies and romantic partners. They were wrong. A massive wave of new research has confirmed that the same neural hardware that tracks your safety in relationships also tracks your safety in the office.
At JobCoffin.com, we don’t do “fluff.” We do data. And we’ve built a proprietary tool to help you understand your unique career attachment style: the Rel8r Assessment.
Introducing the Rel8r: Your Career Attachment Assessment
The Rel8r is not another personality quiz. It’s an engaging, multimedia experience designed to help you discover your professional attachment style. Through a series of video-based scenarios, the Rel8r assesses your patterns of behavior and belief in the workplace, and it provides you with a personalized report that will change the way you think about your career.
Why Attachment Style Matters More Than Personality
A massive meta-analysis of over 32,000 participants found that attachment style predicts job performance, satisfaction, and leadership potential even after accounting for the Big Five personality traits. In other words, you can have the “perfect” personality for a role, but if you have an insecure attachment style, it can act as a governor on your engine, limiting your success.
Here’s how it plays out:
1. The “Search Sabotage”
Your attachment style is active before you even get a job offer.
- The Avoidant Trap: If you have a dismissive-avoidant style, you may struggle with networking because it requires a level of vulnerability that feels threatening.
- The Anxious Trap: If you have a preoccupied-anxious style, you may be plagued by self-doubt and fear of rejection, which can sabotage your interviews.
2. The Burnout Predictor
Anxious attachment is a strong predictor of burnout. If you’re constantly seeking approval and validation from your boss and colleagues, you’re on a fast track to emotional exhaustion.
3. The Salary Gap
Your attachment style can even affect your earning potential. Individuals with high levels of attachment anxiety are less likely to negotiate for a higher salary, because the fear of damaging the relationship outweighs the desire for fair compensation.
The Four Career Attachment Styles
The Rel8r assessment will help you identify your primary attachment style from one of four categories:
| Style | Core Belief | Superpower | Kryptonite |
|---|---|---|---|
| Secure | “I am capable, and others are reliable.” | Resilience & Delegation | N/A |
| Preoccupied (Anxious) | “I must work hard to prove I am worthy.” | Detecting Risks & Team Cohesion | Burnout |
| Dismissive (Avoidant) | “I can only rely on myself.” | Deep Focus & Independent Tasks | Isolation |
| Fearful (Avoidant) | “I want connection, but I’m afraid of being hurt.” | Empathy & Insight | Indecisiveness |
The Good News: It’s Fixable
Your attachment style is not a life sentence. It’s a “working model” that can be updated. The first step is to understand your patterns. The Rel8r assessment is designed to help you do just that.
When you complete the assessment, we’ll send you a personalized email with your results, along with specific, actionable strategies for navigating your career with your attachment style in mind.
Stop fighting your personality. Start understanding your attachment style.
Take the free Rel8r assessment today.
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